Problems with erectile dysfunction and how to treat it at home
There are some cases where you can manage occasional episodes of erectile dysfunction at home, without seeking help from a doctor. However, you need to convince your partner of the idea, and you shouldn’t hesitate to seek medical assistance if you experience continual erectile dysfunction.
How to help yourself:
- Change the aspects of your lifestyle that can negatively affect your erectile function. These are most commonly alcohol, smoking, and the use of illegal drugs. Decreasing your overall body weight and increasing your physical activity is also beneficial for many men.
- Analyze your relationship and life circumstances;
- Talk to your partner;
- Try to practice sensory exercises together with your partner.
Some men are able to treat themselves using biologically active substances or alternative medicines that are broadly advertised in the press. However, such treatments have often never passed through rigorous scientific examination and can be dangerous as well as expensive.
Aspects of life that cause erectile dysfunction
The following changes to your lifestyle can also lower your risk of erectile dysfunction:
- Limit your consumption of alcohol to a maximum of two drinks per day or completely eliminate it from your diet if it’s adversely affecting your erectile function. Be aware that even small amounts of alcohol can negatively affect your erection.
- Quit smoking. Smoking negatively affects the capability of blood vessels in the penis to relax and fill with blood, reducing your ability to achieve and sustain an erection.
- Avoid the use of cocaine, heroin and other prohibited drugs.
- Check all the medicines you currently take. A significant number of medicines can cause erectile dysfunction as a side effect. Ask your pharmacist or your doctor whether your medications can cause erectile dysfunction.
- If you’re overweight, you’ll need to go on a diet. Losing just 10 percent of your total body mass can have positive effects on erectile functioning.
- Try to relax more. Getting wound up about the inconsistency of your sexual function will only aggravate the existing problem.
- Talk with your partner about your problem and concerns. Sexual intimacy is one of the modes of communication. If you don’t communicate with your partner outside of the bedroom, there’s a lower chance you’ll be able to engage in normal sexual activity with your partner.
- Conquer stress. An overload of work or persistent stress can lower your interest in having sex and reduce your sexual energy. Regular physical exercises and other stress-reducing factors can help.
Analyze your relationship and life circumstances
Analyzing your current life situation, emotions and relationship can often help you identify the factors leading to erectile dysfunction.
Consider the following factors and anxieties. Did any of them coincide with the occurrence of erectile dysfunction? If yes, they could well be the cause. Talk with your partner or other people close to you about how the factor has affected your relationship.
Below are the occurrences commonly associated with erectile dysfunction:
- Moving to a new job or losing your current one;
- Preparing for retirement;
- The beginning of a new relationship;
- A big change in the previous relationship, such as having a child or your eldest child leaving home;
- Death of your partner.
There are also a number of anxieties associated with erectile dysfunction:
- worrying about ageing
- worrying about a partner’s illness
- worrying about your finances
- worrying about relationship problems between you and your partner.
All these factors and several other situations could be associated with stress, anxiety, tension or anger, and can subsequently lead to a temporary state of erectile dysfunction. Give yourself time to adapt to new conditions. It’s okay if sex stops while you sort out your other priorities for a while. As is often the case, erection problems can disappear naturally within a couple of weeks.
Talk to your partner about erectile dysfunction
Talking with your partner about erectile dysfunction can help you solve it. Partners often think they know what the other likes during sex, but sometimes they can be wrong.
- Don’t make accusations. Talk with your partner and tell her what you find pleasant and what you don’t.
- Take the time to talk to your partner outside of the bedroom. If you’re worried that you won’t be able to engage in normal sexual intercourse because of erectile dysfunction, your partner could start to worry that you’re no longer attracted to them or that you might be having an affair.
- In some cases, it can turn out that your partner isn’t as interested in sex, but more in foreplay and other forms of sexual gratification.
- Discuss the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship in general, not only the sexual aspects. Define the positive moments, conflict areas and those requiring improvement. Figure out exactly how you can change the current situation and whether both of you will do it.
- If you find it hard to discuss sexual problems with your partner, see a specialist who will assist your discussion — for instance, a sexologist.
- Try reading books about sexual health together with your partner.
Practice sensory exercises with your partner
Sensory exercises can help you overcome erectile dysfunction. The practice will help you to relax and focus more on touch during sexual intimacy, rather than focusing on the erection itself. Increasing the attention you give to achieving an erection won’t help. Sensory exercises are more helpful when they’re executed within a calm, tranquil, and playful ambiance. Turn on some pleasant music, turn off your phone and focus on your partner.